Choosing your attendants is as daunting a task as picking
your dress, and might be just as important. These are the people that will be
standing next to you, maybe even in matching chartreuse dresses! But whom do
you choose? How many people do you ask? Well, like all things wedding planning,
it’s up to the couple!
How many attendants
to choose: Well, having more attendants means having more everything. More
people to coordinate, more people to voice their opinions, but also more people
to help with planning. Instead of adding another bridesmaid, perhaps your
cousin who was in show choir would like to sing. Or your buddy with the booming
made-for-radio voice can do a reading. It’s up to the two of you to decide.
You don’t have to
have an equal number: Just like all bridesmaids dresses don’t have to be
exactly the same, you don’t have to match your dear friend with your fiancé’s
second cousin just to keep numbers even. If your attendants are walking down
the aisle, it doesn’t have to be in pairs; you can match up one bridesmaid to
two groomsmen or vice versa.
You don’t have to
split boys-vs.-girls: If the bride would rather have her brother on her
side, while the groom wants his sister standing next to him, that’s fine. And for
same-sex couples, splitting on gender lines makes even less sense. Choose the people
you want to be with you and it will mean more to you in the long run.
Choose people that
mean something to you, but also match your wedding-day needs: A laid-back groom
may not want a wild bachelor party. His hard-partying friend might not be the
best choice as best man, then. A bride
who wants exactly-matching bridesmaids with exactly-matching hair and dresses
might not want to choose her punk-rock, pink-haired youngest sister.
No matter whom you choose, or how many, these are the people
who will be standing up with the two of you on your most important day
together. Pick the people you’ll want to cherish in the long run.
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