Thursday, December 11, 2014

Helpful tips if you’re thinking of proposing this holiday season

While we love proposals any time of year, the holiday season seems to be a favorite for many couples to get engaged. You’ve found your perfect match, but how do you pop the question?

Make it meaningful. Proposals are unique to each couple. What is meaningful to the two of you may not be special to another couple. Think about places that are important to you. Perhaps the location of a first date or a favorite restaurant is the perfect spot. Or perhaps there’s a funny joke the two of you share. Meaningful will always be memorable.

Know your audience. Not every proposal has to be a flash mob that gets a million likes on YouTube. While those are fun, that might not be what your sweetheart is looking for. You don’t have to live up to anyone else’s expectations of a proposal – just yours as a couple. Again, you’re looking for what’s important to the two of you!

Practice! No, you don’t want to be reciting a speech or reading off note cards, but it’s a good idea to have a plan for what you want to say and how you want to say it.

Are you planning a proposal? Tell us about it in the comments (preferably AFTER you pop the question, if it’s a surprise!).

Thursday, November 20, 2014

With which ring?

Much is made about choosing an engagement ring – but what about the wedding bands themselves? Like any other piece of jewelry, your wedding band can be traditional or modern. But, unlike a lot of jewelry, this one has a lot of significance, and even its own section of your ceremony!

There’s nothing wrong with a traditional wedding band. A single band of gold, matching your spouse’s, has long been the symbol of a marriage. You can have it engraved with your wedding date and initials, if you like.

More unique wedding bands are available, of course, from both traditional jewelers and from local artisans. Metals like tungsten and titanium have a sleek and modern look. Or, you can get unique with special engravings, like your individual fingerprints or other designs.

A great option for people who can’t wear metal bands (like electricians) are wood- and even antler-based bands. Crafted and polished, they have a great natural look.

While many times, a couple chooses to have matching bands, your bands don’t have to be identical. Many couples choose different bands to suit their own individual styles. 

Thursday, November 13, 2014

Where do you want to sit? Sweetheart table vs. head table

Making seating charts is arguably one of the hardest parts of wedding planning. But what about YOU? Where do the two of you want to sit? There are pros and cons to either a head table or a sweetheart table.

A head table usually has the happy couple, members of the wedding party, and sometimes selected family members. When you choose a head table, it allows you to be at a large table with a lot of activity, and your guests may feel more comfortable approaching you to offer their well-wishes. It does, however, mean that if any member of your wedding party has a significant other who is not in the wedding party, they will be split at different tables.

A sweetheart table set with rose petals and candles

A sweetheart table is just that, a table for the two of you! Often, couples who choose a sweetheart table have the members of their wedding party, along with significant others, at tables nearby. Some couples prefer the closeness a sweetheart table offers, while others feel that it isolates them from the rest of their guests.

Which are you choosing for your wedding day? Tell us in the comments!

Friday, November 7, 2014

Honeymoon planning 101

As the weather here in the Northeast turns grey and cold, we all start to think about getting away to somewhere warm. Many newlyweds do choose somewhere tropical as their honeymoon site – what says vacation more than sunny beaches, palm trees and relaxing poolside? Luckily, planning for a honeymoon is only slightly more complicated than any other vacation.

Are you dreaming of a tropical honeymoon?
Many couples take part in a honeymoon registry. Instead of wedding gifts, they register for the vacation of their dreams.  They are still very controversial – many people find them inappropriate. If you are going to have a honeymoon registry, my best advice is to follow the rest of the registry rules. Putting the information on your wedding website or getting the information out through word-of-mouth is ok, but never put registry information on your invitation. Also, many of your guests still may not like it; make you sure you give them some options on a regular registry, too.

Do your research on your honeymoon location. You may not want to hit the Caribbean during the height of hurricane season! You’ll also want to be sure you know about things like passport and immunization requirements, crime statistics and more.

And remember! If you are planning on changing your name, but are leaving right away on your honeymoon, all travel needs to be in the name that’s listed on your passport or ID. 

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Help for narrowing down your wedding favor choices

Picking out wedding favors can be daunting – there are so many options out there! How can you possibly decide? DIY, something personalized, something that matches your theme? All of the above?

The easiest way to begin making choices is by figuring out what you don’t want. Perhaps you know people on your guest list have a lot of dietary restrictions, so then choosing a food favor might not be the best idea. Or maybe you know you want your favors to reflect your theme. Start there!

Your favors can also double as escort cards, if you like. That’s one way to ensure everyone takes their favors!

Lovely limoncello favors double as escort cards for this wedding!

If you’re having a destination wedding, a fun favor could be a memento from the area. Gift shops often have multiple copies of the same keychain or frame decorated with the location – and you can always ask for a bulk discount! What a fun way to remember a fun destination!

As with everything else wedding-related, you can do as much yourself as you like. Many couples will put together personalized boxes of Hershey kisses, M&Ms or other candies. Others will simply order something personalized with the couple’s names and wedding date. There’s no wrong answer!

For the ultimate in guest DIY, a candy bar at the wedding also makes for a great favor. A display of several candies with self-serve bags will allow guests to make their favors themselves!

What are your favorite favors? Tell us in the comments!

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Fall in New England? Prepare for all weather for your wedding!

With the temperatures this week in Connecticut ranging from 40-80 degrees, it’s time for us to revisit our best “how to plan for the weather” tips!

The rule in New England is always to prepare for any possibility when it comes to weather, particularly this time of year. Cool, crisp mornings give way to sunny, warm afternoons, but then the temperature can drop quickly again as the sun goes down. How does a couple plan for all of that?
Fall weddings are gorgeous, but the weather can be unpredictable!
The first step is to make sure you have a weather backup if any part of your wedding day is outside. After that, you should offer options to your guests (and have them for yourself!) so you stay comfortable no matter the temperature!

One great option for your guests if your ceremony is going to be outdoors is blankets or shawls to wrap around themselves if the temperature gets too chilly. They can be left prominently in a basket at the entrance, or it can be something your ushers offer to people as they are brought to their seats.

If it’s late fall or early winter, a really warm option is to hand out instant hand warmers. Be careful of handing them to small children, as many of the hand warmers can get really hot! But they do a great job of keeping fingers and toes warm in the colder months.

But what if the opposite happens? What if your crisp fall day turns into a second summer and afternoon temperatures start rising? Your summer cooling tips will help there, too! Perhaps your ceremony programs can double as fans, or you can leave cold bottles of water at the entrance.

This time of year, it’s best to be prepared for anything!

Friday, September 12, 2014

How big is too big for your guest list?

While you’d love to be able to share your happy day with everyone you know, it’s a fact that there’s a limit to the number of people you can put on your guest list. But how much is too much?

Deciding on who to invite can be tricky!

The first thing that usually limits your guest list is your budget. Before you do anything else (well, besides unlock your secret Pinterest board), you need to figure out your budget. Remember, the larger your guest list, the more every part will cost. You’ll need more save-the-dates, more invitations and more favors and centerpieces!

The next step is to decide on a venue. The maximum occupancy of your venue will be a second deciding factor on your guest list. If you choose a small, intimate location, you simply can’t invite 400 people!

But how do you trim your guest list? It’s not always easy. Start with making a big list. The two of you should think of family, friends and other important people for your list. Then, you can start making edits. Your second-year college roommate you haven’t seen in 10 years may not make the final list if you really want your cousin there. Assume about 80% of your list will say yes, and make your decisions that way.

If people ask if they are invited to the wedding, you should have an answer prepared. “I’m sorry, we wish we could invite everyone, but our venue has a strict occupancy level. But I’d love to meet you for coffee sometime soon so we can catch up!” is a great option.